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by: Pamela
Which marriage do you think is better, love or arranged?
Things have given us choices, people are fortunate enough to be able to have their own decisions in their life unlike most of the women in the Middle East who doesn't really have the control with their own lives. It's a part of the Islam's tradition as they don't believe in the concept of dating and with some religion, arranged marriages are to form a trade alliance or any economic relations they might gain with other families.
Truly this type of marriage debunks the concept of love the bible and the church had said. Marriage should be treated as a sacred promise between a man and a woman and not this ceremony and contract we had made in order to fulfill each economic ends. Some parents who used this traditional fixed marriage removes their child's right to feel what is love and how it feels for a person to be loved.
FMU Statistics says that arranged marriage isn't that as unfortunate as how we think it is and only 6% of the population have failed this type of marriage. It is very low compared to the high rate of the sucessful fixed marriage-but have we ever think of that 6% divorced couples who might have been in an abusive relationship with each other and their families? Have we ever think of the torture to let your parents control their lives even if they don't want? When would this people have the voice to speak up of their experiences. When will they have the freedom to take part with their own lives? Why aren't we looking at the whole part of the situation? I'm afraid one day, because of the competitions among everyone of us, we would end up having to connect our ties with someone only for the sake of money and not love.
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